Content Note: Read Safely

This site goes to hard places — on purpose.

Words and images can soothe, challenge, and heal. They can also stir things up. Content about trauma, abuse, and violence may trigger strong reactions, especially for people with lived experience. Please look after yourself as you read.

Why we use content warnings

Content (or “trigger”) warnings aren’t about coddling anyone. They’re about choice and consent. Trauma-informed practice — and survivor communities — use them so people can decide what they’re ready to engage with, and when.

If you’re a survivor

You’re not alone. Many men in Australia — across all backgrounds, including gay, bi, trans, and gender-diverse men, and men harmed as children or adults — have experienced sexual assault or rape. This space is for you.

If you support a survivor

You might be a partner, family member, friend, colleague, or ally. You’ll find plain-language guidance on what helps, what harms, and how to walk beside someone through healing.

How to use this site safely

  • Go at your pace. Pause or step away whenever you need.

  • Notice your body. If you feel overwhelmed, try grounding: 5 things you see, 4 you feel, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste — and slow your breathing.

  • Control what you see. Where available, use Show/Hide on sensitive sections and captions on images.

  • Quick exit. Use the Quick Exit button at the top of the page, or close the tab.

  • You choose. There’s no “should” here. Engage only with what helps you today.

Get help now (Australia)

  • Emergency: Call 000.

  • 1800RESPECT: 24/7 confidential support for sexual assault, domestic & family violence (phone or webchat).

  • SAMSN (Survivors & Mates Support Network): peer-led groups, workshops, and resources for male survivors and supporters.

  • Blue Knot Foundation: support for adult survivors of childhood trauma.

  • MensLine Australia: 24/7 counselling for men (phone and online).

  • Lifeline: 24/7 crisis support and suicide prevention.

  • QLife: LGBTQ+ peer support and referral.

If you’re outside Australia, please check local services in your country or speak with your GP/health provider.

What this site is — and isn’t

  • Survivor-led and trauma-informed. Built from lived experience, with care and boundaries.

  • A safe storytelling space. Share your story only if and when you’re ready. You’ll also find guidance on privacy, consent, and self-care before and after writing.

  • Respect is non-negotiable. No victim-blaming, hate, or harassment. Moderation is active.

  • Not therapy or legal advice. We share information and peer-support resources — not diagnosis, counselling, or legal representation. We link to qualified services where appropriate.

Our purpose

We’re here to:

  • support men impacted by sexual abuse and assault

  • inform the public to break stigma and silence

  • advocate for better services, justice, and community understanding

If you’re here as a survivor: welcome. If you’re here as a supporter: thank you. Wherever you are on your path — take what helps, leave what doesn’t, and remember: healing is possible, and you set the pace.